{"id":56,"date":"2022-07-20T01:03:35","date_gmt":"2022-07-20T01:03:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/shireno.com\/en\/?p=56"},"modified":"2022-08-23T02:42:46","modified_gmt":"2022-08-23T02:42:46","slug":"for-those-who-struggle-in-a-relationship-with-an-avoidant-boyfriend","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/shireno.com\/en\/for-those-who-struggle-in-a-relationship-with-an-avoidant-boyfriend\/","title":{"rendered":"For those who struggle in a relationship with an Avoidant boyfriend"},"content":{"rendered":"

“I want to understand my Avoidant boyfriend’s feelings.”<\/strong><\/p>\n

“Why does he ghost?”<\/strong><\/p>\n

“What behaviors of mine make him dislike me? What kinds of women are Avoidants looking for?”<\/strong><\/p>\n

“I want to know his true feelings.”<\/strong><\/p>\n

Are you struggling because you do not know his true feelings?<\/strong><\/p>\n

I used to be a very heavy Avoidant.<\/p>\n

Until my mid 20’s, I had been unfaithful such as dating multiple women and ghosting them. Thus, I understand those men’s true feelings (As I have now recovered from the challenge, with good self-esteem, I can support those who have an Avoidant partner).<\/p>\n

You might be feeling awful and do not know who to talk to because he treated you badly such as abusive comments, disrespect, cheating, bullying, taking money from you, etc.<\/p>\n

However, I would like you to know that Avoidants are also feeling awful – it is not just you.<\/p>\n

Ask a man about men.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ask an Avoidant about Avoidants.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You need to deeply understand how to deal with your Avoidant boyfriend.<\/h2>\n

When you understand how to deal with him,<\/p>\n

– You gain his trust as you deal with him properly<\/strong><\/p>\n

– You can assure regular contact with him – he does not ghost you<\/strong><\/p>\n

– You can increase the chance to be his serious partner, not a casual one<\/strong><\/p>\n

– His avoidant attachment behaviors would soften as you properly support him<\/strong><\/p>\n

Your relationship with him will certainly be better than what you have today.<\/p>\n

If you do not know how to properly deal with him…<\/p>\n

– He would ignore you, would not reply to your text, and would ghost you<\/strong><\/p>\n

– He would further close himself and would not share his true feelings<\/strong><\/p>\n

– He would start to spend more time with his other dates and not come back to you<\/strong><\/p>\n

– His avoidant attachment behaviors would worsen such as verbal abuse or cheating<\/strong><\/p>\n

– He would block you and leave you<\/strong><\/p>\n

Your relationship may end and his avoidant attachment behaviors would worsen.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Avoidants are significantly more sensitive than regular healthy men. Your casual comments and attitudes may unexpectedly upset him. Almost 100% of women deal with an Avoidant partner in an incorrect manner. Over 95% of women are taking particular actions, which are not good for Avoidants.<\/p>\n

For those who struggle in a relationship with an Avoidant boyfriend<\/h2>\n

“I want to understand my Avoidant boyfriend’s feelings.”<\/strong><\/p>\n

“Why does he ghost?”<\/strong><\/p>\n

“What behaviors of mine make him dislike me? What kinds of women are Avoidants looking for?”<\/strong><\/p>\n

“I want to know his true feelings.”<\/strong><\/p>\n

Are you struggling because you do not know his true feelings?<\/p>\n

– You are struggling to figure out how to deal with him<\/p>\n

– You are confused with his true feelings<\/p>\n

– You want to understand him<\/p>\n

I developed a manual book for you. It is like a textbook, which teaches you how to deal with your Avoidant partner.<\/p>\n

Aren’t you feeling pain and struggling with the relationship without getting any advice? You will understand how to deal with him and his true feelings if you read the book.<\/strong><\/p>\n

=> Textbook: how to deal with an Avoidant, with a deep understanding of Avoidants<\/p>\n

Please see the table of content below:<\/p>\n

Chapter 1: Basic – how to deal with your Avoidant boyfriend<\/p>\n

Must-know basics when you are dating an Avoidant<\/p>\n

1-1. 11 Must-not-do actions<\/p>\n

1-2. Be careful – you may not be “saying”, but “doing XX” to hurt him?<\/p>\n

About 99% of women are taking such wrong actions and hurting him without intentions. If you continue to take such actions without understanding, you are very unlikely to build a good relationship with him and become his serious partner.<\/p>\n

You must read this chapter if you would like to stay with him.<\/p>\n

Chapter 2: Texts you can send to get a reply from your ghosted partner and Texts you cannot send<\/p>\n

2-1: 6 contents you must not mention<\/p>\n

2-2: Text contents he would reply back?<\/p>\n

2-3: Checklist before sending<\/p>\n

2-4: Make sure you have stable “xx”<\/p>\n

This chapter explains the type of texts that you can get his replies to. You might have been desperately waiting for his reply – with the right texts, you may hear from him.<\/p>\n

Chapter 3: The reasons you get emotionally unstable when dating an Avoidant<\/p>\n

It is not just you. You can understand how and why you can be emotionally unstable when dating an Avoidant.<\/p>\n

Chapter 4: 5 causes for Avoidant attachment style<\/p>\n

This chapter explains the past incidences of him having an avoidant attachment style.<\/p>\n

Chapter 5: Understanding social pressures to “produce” Avoidant men<\/p>\n

Social pressures can impact anyone, but this chapter explains specific social impacts on Avoidants men.<\/p>\n

Chapter 6: 5 types of Avoidants – deep understanding of their psychology<\/p>\n

This chapter summarizes the core psychology of each Avoidant type.<\/p>\n

6-0: “Self-deprecation” and “Confidence in XX” – all Avoidants have those, what are they?<\/p>\n

I wrote the deepest unconscious psychology and true feelings of Avoidants. You may have completely different views on him after reading this section. I wrote about the hopelessness of Avoidants that only Avoidants can share.<\/p>\n

6-1: Player’s psychology<\/p>\n

We start to see more of this type nowadays – they keep multiple partners.<\/p>\n

– Why do Players date multiple women?<\/p>\n

– Can Players love only one woman?<\/p>\n

– What are the deep darkness Players have and their psychology?<\/p>\n

6-2: Dictator’s psychology<\/p>\n

– Ordering me all the time; “do this” and “do that”<\/p>\n

– Verbal abuse and talking down; “You are not good enough” and “You are worthless”<\/p>\n

– No equal partnership – he always wants to be in a superior and higher position<\/p>\n

6-3: Taker’s psychology<\/p>\n

– Why is he so obsessed with money?<\/p>\n

– Why is he persistent in “taking” from women?<\/p>\n

6-4: Narcissist’s psychology<\/p>\n

– Why does he think that he is so special?<\/p>\n

– Why is he persistent in “taking” from women?<\/p>\n

6-5: Escaper’s psychology<\/p>\n

– Why does Escaper want to be alone?<\/p>\n

– What exactly hurts Escaper?<\/p>\n

– What relationship style does Escaper prefer?<\/p>\n

6-6: Summary: how Avoidants get unhealthy “confidence in XX”<\/p>\n

This is the core section. It explains each Avoidant’s psychology that you rarely find on the internet. You will understand the psychology of your boyfriend’s type. Once you do, you can better deal with him.<\/p>\n

Chapter 7: Questions from the women with an Avoidant partner<\/p>\n

7-1: “How can I make him open up?”<\/p>\n

7-2: “How can I be his serious partner, not a casual one? What kinds of women can be a serious partner of Avoidants?”<\/p>\n

7-3: “What can I do to soften his avoidant symptoms as his girlfriend?”<\/p>\n

7-4: “Can I be happy marrying my Avoidant boyfriend?”<\/p>\n

This is another core section, following chapter 6.<\/p>\n

I selected the 4 most frequently asked questions. I am sharing my advice on the best way to build a great relationship with him, based on his psychology.<\/p>\n

To finish.. What kinds of partners do Avoidants look for?<\/p>\n

Who is his type?<\/p>\n

What types of women would be loved by him?<\/p>\n

Do you find any topic touching your heart? You will not regret reading this book if you have an Avoidant partner.<\/p>\n

=> Understand your Avoidant partner by reading “How to deal with an Avoidant, with a deep understanding of Avoidants”<\/p>\n

FAQ<\/p>\n

Q1: Why can’t you share the content for free?<\/p>\n

Hope you understand that the textbook was written based on;<\/p>\n

1. knowledge and experience that I acquired over the last few decades<\/p>\n

2. over 150 hours I spent<\/p>\n

3. case studies of over dozens of women with an Avoidant partner<\/p>\n

I cannot share these contents for free, I am afraid. I cannot allow a free copy, either.<\/p>\n

Thus, I am charging the textbook, which is meant to be read by those who are seriously trying to build a great relationship with their Avoidant partner (many free contents on the internet are shallow and inaccurate, which does not help the situation).<\/p>\n

I am considering a paper book version moving forward.<\/p>\n

Q2: How to purchase and pay?<\/p>\n

It would take about 3 minutes to purchase it.<\/p>\n

You can pay in the following method;<\/p>\n

– Credit card (VISA, Mastercard, American Express, JCB, Diners Club Card, Discover Card)<\/p>\n

– Apple Pay, Google Pay, WeChatPay, Alipay<\/p>\n

Q3: I clicked “purchase”, but it did not take me to the next step. What can I do?<\/p>\n

If your browser is old, the click button may not work. Please try to purchase via a mobile instead of a PC or use a different browser.<\/p>\n

If you still continue to face the same issue, please contact me.<\/p>\n

Q4: Other purchase issues<\/p>\n

Please use the contact form in this blog to reach me.<\/p>\n

Feedback from the readers<\/p>\n

Please see the screenshots of feedback from those who read the textbook.<\/p>\n

Hope their feedback helps you decide if the textbook is for you.<\/p>\n

Feedback 1:<\/p>\n

I understand now that some of my actions were hurting him. I thought that I was the victim and he was garbage. However, I can forgive him as I imagine that he also went through tough times.<\/p>\n

Feedback 2:<\/p>\n

It was very easy to follow. I feel that I can solve the puzzle that I have struggled with for a long time. As I did not realize that my boyfriend and I are in that “relationship”, I was putting the wrong effort into the wrong areas. I understand now that I need to treat my attachment style first. I would have been in pain if I did not find this textbook. Thank you very much for writing the textbook.<\/p>\n

Feedback 3:<\/p>\n

I have been with my boyfriend for over 4 years. I feel that I understand his personality for the most part, but still get confused from time to time. I sometimes wondered if I could push any further. Why does he get so angry? Why does he leave me without telling me the reason? If he could talk to me, I would not get hurt this much. Why cannot he come to the middle? I had been questioning for a long time. However, now I understand that he also went through tough times. I would like to apologize to him. His physical distance does not necessarily reflect his feelings for me – this fact makes me feel secure. I feel that I can happily stay with him if I could respect his needs for space and spend time with him without suppressing my loneliness and complaints.<\/p>\n

Feedback 4:<\/p>\n

This textbook changed my life. After reading it, I realized that the majority of my ex-boyfriends had Avoidant tendencies. I thought that my unsuccessful relationships were driven by<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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