This is an assessment list for those who are wondering if you could have an Anxious attachment style.
Please check below.
I will share the checklist and your severity based on your answers.
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Checklist 25 for Anxious attachment style
Assessment and severity
1 – 4: Mild Anxious attachment level
5 – 8: Medium Anxious attachment level
9 + : Heavy Anxious attachment level
How to treat Anxious attachment
Anxious attachment related articles
Avoidants – likely partners for Anxious
Checklist 25 for Anxious attachment style
Please see the checklist below.
1. Once falling in love, you are thinking about the person all the time.
2. You are anxious if you will be dumped or cheated.
3. When you are not physically with your partner, you worry about what he/she is doing.
4. When he/she is not replying or is taking time to reply to your calls/texts, you get anxious or you assume that he/she may stop loving you.
5. You always worry about and try to read his/her feeling and mood.
6. You give in to his/her needs.
7. You seek unconditional and perfect love.
8. You sometimes explode, throwing your frustration at your partner.
9. When you find his/her recent activities via social networks, you tend to spend loads of time to further checking what he/she is doing.
10. You easily fall in love and fall out of love.
11. Your relationship tends to be short, and you quickly find a new partner.
12. When your relationship is going well, your work and life are stable. On the other hand, when not, you do not manage your life well.
13. You want to do anything for him/her.
14. You want to be needed. You feel self-worth when you are needed.
15. You do not like to spend time alone and be alone.
16. You want to be with someone – anyone is better than being alone.
17. You are not attracted to sincere and secure types of partners.
18. You feel that you cannot live without him/her.
19. You do anything to make him/her stay when you feel that he/she is leaving you.
20. You think that you are the only one who can support and change him/her.
21. When your friends/families criticize your partner, you need to fight back.
22. Having sex is the only way for you to feel love.
23. If you are not loved by someone, you are worthless.
24. If you put up with and give in, this relationship should work.
25. Deep down, he/she is actually a good person.
Assessment:
Please see the assessments below. Please note that these are as guidance only – for example, you can be “heavy” Anxious as you have severe symptoms on one topic even if you have a limited total number of checks.
1 – 4: Mild Anxious attachment level
You get anxious and face pains, but can soften the symptoms by having different perceptions and releasing stress.
5 – 8: Medium Anxious attachment level
You have unstable emotions and face strong pains, impacting your daily life. Please avoid getting worse.
9+ : Heavy Anxious attachment level
You are under “addiction”, impacting your daily life heavily. You need to treat it as soon as possible.
Avoidants – likely partners for Anxious
Anxious and Avoidant tend to be in relationships.
Your current partner or ex-partners can be Avoidants. Please check:
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