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1. Messages from ex-Avoidant to women who are dating an Avoidant man
This was written when I was experiencing Avoidant attachment symptoms. As described on the page, I used to be an Escapee type and was very sensitive to being directed and ordered as well as someone dumping their emotions.
Such actions disturbed my emotions, and I got very angry, verbally attacked, and ghosted. My partner tended to chase and ask me why I did not contact her, which worsened my symptoms.
This is not something I did with a nasty intention to hurt her. I could not help doing it as my past wounds got irritated. Without understanding this dynamic, you cannot stay with an Avoidant man.
2.Impossible to fix Avoidant attachment style? One way to fix it.
It depends on the severity, but overall it is not easy to ease Avoidant attachment. I have never met any Avoidant men who claim that they are no longer an Avoidant, with the exception of myself.
I acknowledged that I am an Avoidant when I was 23 years old. It took me about 8 years to have a very limited Avoidant tendency. I have read various psychology and therapy/counseling books and articles, easily spending more than 100,000 yen. I spent every day shifting between facing and avoiding the issues.
3. The 6 stages of Avoidants’ romantic relationship cycle, explained by the Avoidant
Avoidants go through the 6 stage cycle, without exceptions, regardless of whoever they are with. If you are with an Avoidant partner, you should have had a similar experience. Stage 4 is especially miserable.
When you are hurt and sad, waiting for his contacts, he is also getting hurt with the pain he cannot even describe as his past wounds got irritated. He is desperately trying to run away from the pain.
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